I wanted to catch everyone up with the latest on the adoption front. Nathan and I went in this afternoon for our first of two interviews with the adoption organization, and it went really well! The hard part was over as soon as we turned in all of our paper work, so I feel like this portion of the process is a piece of cake comparatively. The most exciting part of today's meeting was getting the chance to meet one of the counselors who works directly with the birth mothers. It was wonderful to hear from her about the ends and outs of what they do for the ladies who come in, because she, more than anyone else, has the hands on contact.
Listening to the counselor reminded me why we have such a peace about the fact that we are adopting through this organization. It is so reassuring to know that the mothers have not been cajoled in any way to choose adoption when parenting is a viable possibility. The "client" at Life Choices is always the mother, and their desire is simply to help provide support for each lady in whatever capacity they can, whether that means helping them make a plan for adoption or preparing them for the adventure of parenting. I love the fact that the birthmother of my future child will choose adoption because it is the right thing for her and the baby, not because her arm was twisted!
Today I walked away from the meeting with an even greater respect for the birthmothers. As I listened to the preparations the ladies make as they work toward making an adoption plan, I was overwhelmed by the amount of love the mothers have for the children they carry. To begin with, choosing life is not the easy option, and the decision to carry the baby for nine months, even in the midst of crisis, shows such strength of character. I was also struck by the love it requires to realize that it is in the best interest of the child in some cases to put him/her up for adoption. What a selfless choice!
I guess in the past I have assumed that a mother who gave her baby up for adoption was too immature or self-centered to be able to face the responsibility of parenting. What a misconception! I'm embarrassed to even say that now that I know just how far from the truth that really is. But that is how far I have come in understanding what adoption is all about. It is really the uniting of two love stories. That is what I want my baby to know all of his life...that his is the story of being doubly loved.
We will have our second interview this Tuesday, and then we will be officially able to adopt. So as of Wednesday, the waiting begins!